It’s a popular topic: taking back your power.
But what does this really mean? When and
how do you give away your power? What is
the consequence of giving away your power?

Like many other components of the spiritual
journey, stopping giving away your power is
not a one and done. It’s an ongoing exercise –
something you’ll likely get to practice each
day for the rest of your life (sort of like
surrender – or experiencing the Divine within).

I can think of many times when I give my power
away.

I give my power when I get frustrated with
a situation, an individual or group…about
anything. When I blame someone else
for something that’s going on in my life
that I’m not happy about. When I believe
that someone else knows better how I
should live my life – or what I should do
in some situation – I give my power away.

When I get frustrated with – or blame
someone else or a situation for something
that’s going on in my life that I don’t like
I hand that circumstance (or person) some
of my power. I put them in charge of me
and how I’m feeling. The opposite is true
as well: when I accept complete responsibility
for everything in my life, including what is
true and best for me, I have taken back all
my power.

This has been a real struggle for me at
different points in my life. You mean
EVERYTHING in my life is my responsibility?
Yep! At the end of the day, you control
your response to everything. You know
what’s best for you.

So what’s the consequence of giving
away power? A reduction in the
quality of your life. A lack of confidence.
Miserable or happy you get to choose.

This may sound a bit harsh – especially
if you’re having a hard time right
now with something that’s going
on in your life – or a relationship that
isn’t working.

But it’s the true story. When you get
to a position where you take all your
power back, the relationship, the
situation – will no longer upset you.

You’ll simply choose a different response.

If I make this sound simple or something
that’s easily implemented, let me be
real with you: It’s not. It’s taken me
years to figure this out. Years of
practicing excavating my soul and
playing with surrender. And finding
my own voice, what is true for me.

Since my big surrender event at the
end of June last year I’ve become
LESS tolerant – which has helped me
take my power back big time. Less
tolerant of instances where I wasn’t
loving myself. Less tolerant of situations
and relationships that weren’t in
alignment.

My lack of tolerance has made my words
and actions much more to the point –
much more in alignment with my truth.

And I get to learn this lesson each day
over again.

We’re all in the same soup together.
That’s it for this week…From My
Heart.

Peace,

Ken Stone
“The Soul Archaeologist”
KenWStone.com