The Three Most Powerful Words — From My Heart

Ken W Stone; spiritual teacher, author, and spiritual healer

Ken W. Stone,
“The Soul Archaeologist”

Spiritual Teacher, Author, Healer, and Founder of The Resonance Experiment

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The Three Most Powerful Words — From My Heart




Ken W Stone

Have you been noticing how the same stuff keeps coming up over and over again. It’s like biting your cheek or tongue over and over again in the same place. Hurts like hell – and tends to be exponentially frustrating each time!


This week has been full of wonderful sessions with amazing people. Several of my clients this week wanted to know “Where/when is the reward?”

They were referring to the fact that the aspects of their life that are challenging aren’t letting up. If anything, as we move towards the end of the year, it’s getting more challenging – more painful.

I can personally identify with this.

There is a reward. It is available to you right now. And it will sustain day to day – week to week – and year to year.


I like to think I have my act together in every area of my life. In truth, I’ve got some things figured out – but even then, I stumble regularly forgetting what I’ve learned and losing touch with what is real.

Even when I remember what is real, if I’m not experiencing it, it doesn’t matter. For me what really makes the difference is the experience. I admire the contemplative traditions and those skilled in this area. That’s not me. I’m all about the experience.

If you can’t tell, I’m also a control freak.  I like things how I like them.

I’m the perfect combination of ingredients for the perfect spiritual storm: I’m strong willed, I think I know all the answers … and sometimes my experiences match my knowledge, giving me even more justification in thinking I know.


The most powerful three words I’ve discovered are: I Don’t Know.

When I come to these three words, I know I’m getting close. Close to moving through the source of my pain and suffering – no matter how big or small.

Who (or what) has the answer? Well … NOT ME!


The following were my thoughts about who has the answer (and who is responsible for this mess) as I was preparing to completely surrender for the first time:

– I witness the hand of God at work in the world each day at work. I am a conduit for that presence (as we all are). Why then am I unable to feel God’s presence in the way that I WANT?

– It’s been tempting to see other people as in possession of the answer (what and/or how) but that doesn’t seem to be working. When I see this pattern in my clients, it doesn’t work for them either. The answer isn’t in another person.

– The answer MUST be in me. Yet if this is true, how is that I have continue to create such misery in my pursuit of understanding and experiencing self love?

– Though the answer will come from within me, it will not come from my mind. I (small self) don’t know.

– Despite my rigorous commitment to viscerally experiencing my wholeness (though Beneath the Sand – BTS) the net effect of this practice seems to be an amplification of my pain and suffering. The contrast between the bliss and connection I experience BTS and the discomfort of my day to day moments of my life is becoming untenable.

– Why is the bliss from BTS not expanding into every area of my life?

– What’s the answer? I don’t know.

– Who knows? If anyone does, it is the Universe – Source – the Divine – God.

– If God knows then why am I not experiencing the solution?

– Because I am holding God at bay with my ideas.

– How can I let go of my ideas and allow God into every area of my life – especially around the knowledge and experience of Self Love?

– I can let go of control. I can surrender.

– To whom or what?

– To God.

– God I give up. I don’t know how to fix it. You’re in charge. Of everything.


Acknowledging you don’t have the answer is the first step to complete freedom.

Surrender is the next step.

What should you surrender? How about the area of greatest pain and suffering (or resistance) in your life right now.

Once you’ve moved past the three barriers to spiritual mastery (aka the three barriers to healing) – and

Surrender can begin with the most powerful phrase I’ve discovered on the spiritual journey: I don’t know.

How will I solve this problem? When and how will this pain or that suffering end or transform?

I don’t know.

It opens the door to the truth: No matter how aware or enlightened you may be, when you surrender, you acknowledge that your perspective is necessarily less than the Divine.

Surrender opens the door to your reward – your freedom.

Your freedom is available to you right now. And tomorrow. And next week. And every breath you take from now until your last.


When I completely surrendered on the 30th of June of 2011 I stepped through a door to freedom. I experienced unconditional self love for the first time in my life.

I have revisited that door many times since. It’s part of the cycle of being a human being. Forgetting then remembering who we really are. Stopping to remember and experience what is real.

And then surrender.



As we prepare for the end of the year, we are being given an opportunity to explore a new perceptual framework of what is real. I invite you set aside everything you know and open up to something unknown.

Let’s let go of control and step into the unknown together.

That’s it for this week…From My Heart.



Ken Stone
“The Soul Archaeologist”
Internationally Recognized Teacher and Healer